Can you recognise yourself?
Hyper-Achiever is a person who is highly focused on external success, leading to unsustainable workaholic tendencies and loss of touch with his/her deeper emotional and relationship needs according to Shirzad Chamine author of the Positive Intelligence. Their self-respect and self-validation very much depends on constant performance and achievements. They are in a constant doing mode.
Can you recognise yourself? I can…..
Today world is a hotbed for hyper-achievers.
Main characteristics of a Hyper-Achiever
They tend to be rather competitive, image and status conscious. They master covering up their insecurities and showing positive image. Very goal oriented and workaholic inclination. More focus on perfecting public image than introspection. They can be self-promoting. And keep others at safe distance.
What are your feelings and thoughts?
I must be efficient and effective and I must be best at what I do. Emotions can get in the way of performance, therefore, I don’t like dwelling in feelings for too long, because they distract me from achieving my goals. I can be anything I want to be. I feel worthy mostly when I am successful and it is important for me that others think well of me. Don’t get others to close because I am afraid of them seeing that I am not as perfect as the image I portray. They may find fault in me.
How do you justify yourself? Which is in fact a lie
Life is about achieving and producing results. Portraying a good image helps me achieve results. Feelings are just a distraction and don’t help anything. I must be always doing something, otherwise I am lazy, worthless of love, attention etc.
What is the original survival function of controlling?
For the Hyper achiever, self-validation, self-acceptance and self-love are all conditional – conditioned on continual performance. This is often the result of either conditional or altogether absent validation from parental figures. Even with very loving and approving parents, it is easy for children to get the sense that they are loved in return for achieving, obeying the rules, having good manners, marks etc. rather than unconditionally.
- How much do you enjoy the journey to leadership, or the journey to achieving your milestones or just the end results give you sense of satisfaction and fulfilment?
- Do you stop yourself and your team to celebrate success, key milestones? When was the last time you celebrated a milestone?
- How much is enough? (This is my very question! )
Resource: Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine